In my post on the areas of focus for the 2014, I mentioned that I wanted to conduct twelve 30 day personal development experiments during the course of the year. 2014 is already underway and it is time to get the party started. This evening I am commissioning the first 30 day experiment. It officially starts today and ends on 2nd February 2014. During this time, I want to actively and purposefully cultivate the habit of feeling blessed.
Below is a long extract of a long article by Steve Pavlina. I think he gives very useful tips of how this can be achieved and I want to try out some of his wisdom.
Set aside 20 minutes every evening before going to bed just to dream. Do this sitting up so you don’t fall asleep. Close your eyes or stare off into space, and think about what you want to experience in each part of your life. Whatever you think about is fine, as long as it feels good to you.
Imagine your ideal physical body. Think about your ideal relationships. Picture your ideal career. Imagine having your finances just the way you want them. Imagine living where and how you want to live. Be specific, and picture as much detail as you can. Don’t worry about getting the details perfect — just imagine details that seem attractive to you.
Make sure these imaginings are fully associated. This means that you imagine seeing each scene through your own eyes. Generally you should avoid using a third-person perspective, although you can try it if you want to imagine things from a different angle. Usually the first-person perspective will create stronger emotions.
You don’t have to say or affirm anything. But it’s crucial that you feel the feelings. If you feel neutral, you’re not there yet. How would you honestly feel if you were experiencing all of these wonderful things right now? If you’d feel totally neutral to have them right now, it’s safe to say you don’t really want them.
Don’t project your dreams into some distant future. Imagine that whatever you want is happening right now this very moment. Imagine that it’s 100% real.
If it takes you 10 or more minutes just to get a clear picture of some small part of your life getting better, then so be it. Put in the time. Deliberately thinking about what you want is a very important activity. This kind of visualization is an outstanding use of your time.
If you think about what you want, and you imagine it as real, but you get very little emotional surge from it, then drop it for a while, and imagine something else. Go bigger. Go bolder. Go sexier. Involve other people. Involve the whole planet if that’s what it takes to stir your emotions. It’s your imagination. You don’t need anyone’s approval to choose the thoughts that feel good to you.
Don’t spend much time thinking about what makes you feel relieved and comfortable. Think about what excites you. Imagine scenes that make you ooze with passion. If you have a hard time getting excited, then keep imagining different things. There’s no time limit.
I want to try a version of the above ritual for 30 solid days; I want to experience first hand the effect it has on my attitudes, my actions and my life during this period of time. I want some of it to rub on me and become a part of my outlook on life afterwards. I am also interested in seeing what unexpected changes this has on me. Perhaps 30 days is not enough to make certain changes in ones life but perhaps it is enough to ignite a fire. We shall see.